Should Christians Have a Public Opinion Against Gay Rights?

This isn't a post about whether being homosexual is right or wrong. I have written other posts on the topic, which you can check out below.

Are Christians Closed-Minded on the Issue of Gay Rights?

"Adam and Steve" is a Poor Argument Against Gay Rights

Instead, this post is about is how Christians relate to the rest of the world when it comes to expressing our values.

Let's assume, for the sake of logical progression, that the Bible does say that homosexual acts are sinful.

Now let me ask you a question that might blow your mind. Where in the Bible were Christians granted the permission to tell non-Christians how to act on personal issues? Which version of the gospel included Jesus banging his rules over the heads of the gentiles before they were allowed to have a relationship with him?

It did not happen.
Let me repeat. It did not happen. Nowhere in the Bible are we told to tell non-Christians not to commit our sins. There are plenty of times where Jesus saved or befriended someone and then convicted them to "go and sin no more", but he interacted with the 'sinners' and the gentiles in a manner of humility and love.

Remember the story of the Lady at the Well? Remember when Jesus said, "Though art a sinner and going to hell for being sinful." No? That didn't happen either.

He made sure her spiritual needs were fulfilled, made sure she understood who he was, and only then did he bless her with the conviction to stop her sins.

Also in that story, remember when the disciples found Jesus talking with the Lady at the Well and said "I no longer support you Jesus because you associate with this person who's actions we disagree with." Then they turned to the lady and said, "Hey woman! Your actions are sinful. Stop doing what you are doing and then come talk to us about our faith." No? That didn't happen either. They came back and did not question the validity of her faith and her association with Jesus.

This is an awesome model for how we treat homosexuality in our world today, assuming that it actually is a sin. We don't tell people to change their ways before they become a Christian. There is absolutely no reason for them to do so. They don't have the conviction that comes from a personal relationship with Jesus. They don't have a reason to read and understand the Bible and obey it's guidelines.

They don't have a reason to follow our increased standards which we hold ourselves to in order to develop a better relationship with God. None of that is relevant to a non-Christian. We force our rules upon them, and it makes us seem elitist and hateful.

How atheists think Christians treat atheists...

So when we tell a non-Christian to stop being gay, what message are we sending? I'll tell you. They have to change before Jesus will love them. They have to follow our rules, even though they have absolutely no reason to do so. They need to repent before they can accept the free gift of eternal life meant for all of God's children.

How in the world is this Biblical?

In fact, the word "repent" should not have meaning until someone develops a relationship with God. Why would someone repent from something that they have no reason to stop doing? 

Perhaps we should stop telling non-Christians to follow our guidelines unless our guidelines relate with secular consequences.

There is absolutely no reason for the secular world to be forced to follow our morals if those morals have no effect outside of our relationship with God. To force them to follow our rules makes us seem downright unreasonable.

Being anti-gay as a public and political opinion does not show the love of Jesus. People outside of the Christian faith have no reason not to be gay. So far in the secular world, homosexuality is viewed as having more benefits than harm. So I understand why they think we are hateful and judgmental when we tell them not to do things that they have no reason not to do.
After all, what is our goal as Christians? Show the love of Jesus so that others may be saved. Anytime we force our standards on other people, we are doing the exact opposite of what our goals entail. We drive people away from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

I understand there are certain sins we wish people would stop committing. I get that. But the only way those sins will ever be stopped is with a personal conviction from God as a result of a relationship with him. Your actions to eliminate homosexuality from the secular world do not work. There is no reason they would, and they are not helpful for anyone.

For reference, here's a step-by-step guide on building the kingdom of God.

1. Show the love and friendship of Jesus.
2. Share your faith.
3. Repeat.

That's it.

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